Love it or hate it, Valentine’s Day is good opportunity to turn up the romance in your relationship. With a young family, it’s easy to make kids the excuse for a fizzling romantic life. But your children should be the motivation of having a happy and passionate relationship! I know it sounds strange that your babies, who keep you up at night and require constant love and affection, should be the reason why you strive to keep flames burning with your spouse or significant other, but hear me out. Kids feel secure in a loving family.
According to Family Psychologist Dr. Susan Orenstein, "Expressing affection to your partner can help your child feel secure and stable,” says Orenstein. “They can see their parents taking care of themselves so that frees that up to enjoy being a child. They don't have to worry about Mommy and Daddy because they take care of each other.” This means seeing their parents happy and affectionate together not only models positive relationships for your child’s future but is also helps them feel healthy and safe. Learning to love begins at home.
With Valentine’s Day around the corner(yeah, it’s two weeks away), here are 10 romantic ideas from real couples to help you keep the romance in your relationship.
10 Ideas To Keep the Romance in Your Relationship:
1. Order food from a take-out restaurant and have a picnic for all the Valentines in your family on your living room floor. The person who suggested this said, “The kids look forward to this every year. When we tried to change it, they wouldn’t allow it ... it has become a tradition. The kids see the value of family and a loving marriage.”
2. If you can schedule child-care, then create an intimate Valentine’s Day evening at home, without the kids. The woman who suggested this idea said that she and her husband “enjoyed planning the menu, shopping for the meal, and ultimately preparing the meal together. Cooking to soft, romantic music can really be a turn on! While dining, the same soft, romantic music is a wonderful mood-setter. Dinner was followed by just the two of us having the whole dance floor, our den, to ourselves. I won’t say what all this led to, but it was a truly romantic night that would not have happened at the local restaurant!”
3. Have 11 roses delivered to your wife, and then give her a 12th yourself while reading her a love poem.
4. Surprise your spouse by taking a vacation day from work and enjoy Valentine’s Day at home. Have a relaxing morning together on the porch, deck, or patio. Then go to a favorite restaurant for lunch. The man who suggested this idea had also reserved a spa treatment for his wife. “While she was doing that,” he says, “I went home and made her a special dinner.”
5. Make a meal with symbols of love. Examples: Write I love you with string beans, make a tart in the shape of a heart...
6. On individual note cards, write why you love your spouse. Insert these cards in a small photo album. The woman who suggested this idea began her album with a honeymoon picture and introductory note card, and ended it with a love note.
7. If you are separated across the miles, send a care package filled with things that are red.
8. Fill a jar with Valentine candy and notes for your spouse. Examples of notes are: Good for a backrub, 10 kisses, etc. Notes could also express your love and respect: “I am so glad that God blessed my life with such a great husband like you.” Individually roll each note and tie it with a ribbon.
9. Make a special “14 Reasons I Love You” Valentine’s Day breakfast for your sweetheart. On his/her plate, leave a letter or card listing 14 reasons that you love your spouse.
10. Last but not least, begin and end every day with those three little words. “He always says, ‘I love you’ first thing every morning when I wake up and last thing at night. Even after we’ve argued! ” -- Susan, New York
Do you have any special plans for V-day? Share your romantic ideas in a comment below. Happy Valentine's Day to all the lovers!